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Leaps of faith require bravery, though we don’t always embrace our “Inner brave”.
When I moved back to the Northeast in March of 2014 after almost 20 years in Tennessee, I did so without a job. This was a strange thing for a woman that loves a good plan to do.
Don’t ask me why, but I believed that if I released myself from my known path, opportunities would open up for me that I couldn’t begin to imagine. It was an intentional act, creating a purposeful space between my old professional life and whatever new one was waiting for me.
On hearing about my leaving like this, my friends and loved ones reacted with concern (“I mean, Lisa, who leaves without work?”), wistfulness (“I wish I could do that”) and/or complete and total support (“You go, girl!”). Those with a more spiritual orientation to the universe completely understood… it was an extraordinary act, a leap of faith. They knew, as I know, that I did not need to plan for the great thing… that if I put positive energy into the world, the great thing would happen on its own. So I stopped planning, and began my new journey.
The release was ridiculously confronting and lacked the comfort of the familiar. The only way I could get through the initial stages was an often continuous recitation of my mantra, “You can’t move forward if you don’t let go”. Stepping into the gap, I had to trust that even if I didn’t see things happening, it did not mean that they weren’t happening. That space where anything can happen was open, and was, for me, full of possibility, but also very scary. Tweet This
You can’t move forward if you don’t let go. – Lisa Pote, Brave Girl
Driving out of Tennessee I was exhausted and battered by my leaving experience, but, also excited. Finally, I was moving forward. That I didn’t know what the end point was didn’t matter… it was the leap that mattered. And I’d done it.
As a part of my landing, I had some great conversations with a developing peer network in NYC, Philadelphia and DC. I told my story over and over and heard, “That was a really brave thing to do”. My first interpretation of that was “You must be crazy”. I couldn’t identify with “Brave” which to me, had always been very big; “Brave” was more fitting for first-responders, life-threatening illness survivors, heroes… But that was my definition, and the true definition of “Bravery” includes some words that DID apply to me, and my new life in the gap:
I knew that if “Brave” applied to me, then it also must apply to others as well. I began to talk to everyone I met about bravery, from Chamber events to online communities to training seminars. I started asking, “What does bravery look like to you?” and heard some wonderful examples of what I now call, “Everyday bravery.” People were so generous in sharing their stories, their fears, their accomplishments. They talked openly about how it felt when they fell short and how proud they were when they rose to the challenge. These stories, these people tugged at me; as a writer and motivator, I sensed an opportunity to redefine what bravery looks like, to create a “Brave Community.”
Here we are. Here it is. Lisa’s “Next Thing.”
All you brave souls, or brave “Wanna-bes”, this blog is for you, for us. Let’s co-own a space to share our risks and rewards, identify what works for us and what doesn’t. Let’s build hope here and help each other make leaps in our everyday lives so that we can have the lives we deserve. Go big or go home, I say.
What is YOUR story? Today, bravery looks like “Lisa’s big leap of faith”. Tomorrow belongs to you.
Be brave. Be bold. Make the Leap.
Awesome no other words
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Congrats on bravery. Here’s to the unknown as it becomes known. Enjoy your post-leap experience.
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Great stuff, Lisa! Celebrating my 15th wedding anniversary with the man I leapt for. Left my life and family behind to come to Australia. Brave or stupid…still not sure. But if you don’t take the leap, you’ll never know what could have been. Keep being brave. You wear it well. xo
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Inspiring, and inspired words! Thank you for sharing your “leap” Lisa. Sustainable. positive change does take bravery. Keep on! Looking forward to the next installment. xoxo
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Lisa Pote continues to inspire me…Brave, Bold, Better!
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Thanks all for your great comments. One thing I know is that it’s easier to be brave with the support of others than on our own. I look forward to hearing your stories and a journey that enriches all of us.
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having lived through a brave battle is validating and rewarding.
first thoughts about past experiences r 2 examples in my life that looking back were spectacular decisions for me….choosing to go to college, and in boston in particular; and, as a boy declaring my commitment to my jewish studies. lots of details that only i can appreciate, but trust me when i say major pivot points for me that resulted in creating my identity.
its hard to say what pushed me into the dark, or light, but the result of those choices were positive.
looking ahead though, its confusing (even though i’m super wise) how to distinguish between a situation that demands that i protect myself from those that say “go ahead” take that leap, its safe!”
mind you, i’ve made leaps that led to poor results too. i wouldnt call those brave….especially in hind sight….i sometimes see them as stupid.
so, i’d love to make bold leaps of faith in my life but since i cant tell whats right….when the jump is in its “bold” form…i choose to spend the time thinking about the options, weighting the values, and finally, when its been vetted and diluted from bold, make the choice. so does that mean i’ll never make a bold / brave decision again?
maybe.
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Greg, thanks for your post. I notice a hesitancy on my part to place a value of good or bad on a leap of faith… and wonder if the result matters less than the leap itself… Is it only brave if we land well? I think not. if a leap of faith is in and of itself a brave act, then it brings us riches just for having stepped off the ledge (regardless of where/how we land).
IMO, over-vetting can be a killer of leaps of faith. In the end, the bravery lies in trusting that things will work regardless of what the data tells us… That’s the “Faith” part, and integral to launching yourself forward. It is my hope that you will trust your own heart as a guide and continue to risk as you are able. Let me know how it goes!
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The essence of humanity lay in the delicate convergences of strength and weakness, toughness and tenderness, independence and interdependence, resoluteness and vulnerability, The commitments of love call for both parties to share openly the essence of their humanities.
Years ago, I toasted my brother and sister-in-law at their wedding through an acronym spelling out their names
Remember
Always
Your
Main
Objective,
Never
Deviate.
Patience
And
Trust,
Reliance
In
Compassion,
Tenderness,
Affection.
Devotion
Everlasting,
Sensitivity
Abounding,
Be
Always
Totally
Open
The words still ring true to me. I recommend them to your son and daughter. Best wishes to the bride and groom
Tony DeSabato
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“Be always totally open…” You just said a mouthful, Tony. Open hearts shared for a single purpose is at the center of each great love, IMO. Such a lovely sentiment that you captured. I so appreciate your sharing.
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